Emotions/Themes: Self Concept, Fame, Family, Letting go of specialness, Undoing Specialness
Genre: Comedy, Fantasy
Duration: 125 minutes
Director: Brett Ratner
Actors: Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni
Jack Campbell, is a wealthy, autonomous, fast-lane investment broker who believes he is living the high life. He has no idea what he is in for when the Holy Spirit intervenes and gives him a glimpse of an alternative, relationship-focused life that requires him to develop patience, tolerance and acceptance of what is. This film is perfect for showing the helpfulness of family for opening up to love and commitment, and putting something other than self-centered goals first. "I choose us" is the acceptance of the relationship given now, of choosing the present and trusting that everything else will be taken care, including the future, being secondary to love.
The ego's use of family relationships is to maintain specialness and separation, and to make an idol out of the relationships. The Holy Spirit can use what the ego made, to point towards the truth, and for deepening in communication, integrity and intimacy. Relationships can be used to allow specialness and fear of loss to arise for the purpose of healing.
As the mind opens up to the idea of sharing and extending with the whole sonship, rather than just with a few relationships, the transfer value of what was learned in the family context is immeasurable. As communication deepens, limited family concepts fall away and the experience of love and connection can be experienced with all.
The ego always resists change, because its salvation rests upon maintaining the status quo in form. Therefore; the path of least resistance, one in which the Spirit's guided changes in form are allowed and accepted, is the pain-free way to awaken.
"This need not be painful, but it usually is so experienced." (M-4.I.A.3)
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